Is Couples Therapy right for us?
“We keep having the same argument over and over, but nothing gets resolved.”
“We just don’t have any connection anymore.”
“I feel like we misunderstand each other.”
There are many different reasons why someone would want to start couples, or relationship, therapy. If you have been unhappy or stuck in your relationship, or you feel like you aren’t connecting in your relationships anymore, it is probably time to consider therapy. Many people seek therapy when their problems are evident and can no longer be ignored, but getting started when your problems are small is always a good idea.
Common struggles that bring couples to therapy
FEELING DISTANT
FIGHTING AND ARGUING
BETRAYAL
DISHONESTY
INTIMACY STRUGGLES
ROLE TRANSITIONS
RESPONSIBILITIES
FINANCES
PARENTING STRUGGLES
COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS
DEFENSIVENESS
ANGER
TRAUMA
RELATIONSHIP GROWTH
INCREASE EMOTIONAL CLOSENESS
ADJUSTING TO PARENTHOOD
What to expect in Couples Therapy
Your couples therapy will begin with an intake appointment with your therapist. Your therapist will often choose to have you both at the first session, but will then also have one session with each of you alone to learn more. Your therapist will ask questions to gain an understanding of your life experiences, your worldview, strengths, concerns, needs, and relationship dynamics. After gathering this information, they will work together with both of you to decide which areas you would like to work on in therapy.
For many clients, relationship therapy sessions are scheduled on a weekly or biweekly basis for 45-60 minutes. For some, monthly sessions are enough to keep relationships on track. The length of treatment for couples varies significantly, depending on the symptoms and goals of the clients.